Why you get into a wrong relationship

Getting into a wrong relationship is one common thing that happens now, it gets so bad that people are even tired and scared of getting into a relationship all because they don’t want to get into a wrong relationship.
Relationship is just like a journey, for every journey you must take a bus or train to wherever your destination is. But if you don’t know where you are going, you won’t have a destination and if you don’t have a destination it’s guaranteed 100% that you will get into the wrong bus, which is a wrong relationship. Let’s say you know where you are going but you don’t know how to get there, what can help you in this situation to get to your destination is “QUESTIONS”, you must ask people questions for direction to your destination if not you are on the high risk of getting into the wrong bus which is a wrong relationship also.
The dangerous thing about getting into the wrong bus is,
1 some are lucky enough to discover early that they are in the wrong bus which is a wrong relationship and they quickly tell the driver which is their partner to stop for them to get down, on getting down, they will have to retrace their steps back to the bus stop where they could get the right bus.
This might take hours, days, weeks, months or years depending on how quickly they were able to get down from the bus or how far the driver has taken them and maybe how soon they are able to retrace their steps.
This is a very delicate situation and this is where most people always get it wrong again, they get down from the wrong bus, they are retracing their steps but they don’t have that patient, courage and the perseverance to get back to the bus stop so they could enter the right bus, but instead decided to get into another bus to get them to their destination on their way to retracing their step, which is 90% guaranteed they will get into another wrong bus (wrong relationship) but if they are lucky, they get into the right bus
2 some are not so lucky, they were not aware, they didn’t ask any question from the passengers inside the bus, and from the driver for some hints that they are heading to the wrong destination until they end up in the wrong destination before they find out they have made the biggest mistake of their life which by then it might have been too late to turn back. The wrong destination I am referring to here is marriage; you get into a wrong relationship but you never know, you were not aware until you end up married, its then you find out you have made the biggest mistake of your life.
1 you haven’t discovered yourself: let me start by asking you this, do you know who you are? I am not asking you what your name is and how old are you? This one is called self-discovery, it’s the time when you ask yourself what do you truly desire to be / do / have? Self-discovery means many things. It means finding your purpose in life (we all have a purpose), it means digging deep into your childhood and revealing the experiences that shaped you… good and bad. It means realizing what your beliefs are and living by them.
The effects of self-discovery include happiness, fulfilment, clarity and maybe even enlightenment It requires making some tough decisions and sticking to them. self-discovery has seen me completely change the course of my life and start to follow my true passion and purpose and when you discover yourself, you will know that there are some people that are not worth it and they are not supposed to be in your life, you will have the vision that there are some relationships you are not supposed to get into, you will discover that being single is a good moment for you and when you get into a relationship, you will understand that it’s the next stage for you with direction. Discover yourself today and see how your life will change for better.
“When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.”
— Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man
2 you don’t know what you want: after passing through the stage of discovery yourself, you will realize that you will see a clearer picture of what you want. For example I went on a self-discovery and I discovered that my real me wants to act, If another person should come and tell me to sing, I won’t take the idea because I already know what I want and I am going for it.
At this time, everybody that I will allow around me are those people that share my dreams and my thoughts and this will have a positive effect on the kind of partner I choose to get into relationship with. It won’t make me get into a wrong relationship
3 you don’t ask enough questions: this is one point you shouldn’t take for granted. The reasons why they ask question during a job interview is for the company to know what you can offer and for them to know if they are employing the right person. You should do it also for you to know if you are employing the right person.
After you might discovered yourself, and you already know what you want, the next thing for you to do is ask your partner various questions, it’s this questions that will let you know if the person is what you want. For example, you discovered that life is beautiful to you, then go ahead ask your partner what life is to him, if his/her answer isn’t in line at all with your own answer then you know that bus might be the wrong bus. So all you have to do is get a list of series of questions you want to ask your partner that will give you insight about what you are really getting into.
Through questions, you can know a guy that doesn’t really fancy family, through questions you will know a man/woman that won’t be responsible. The thing you should know is, you don’t have to ask him all the questions at once, stretch the questions over a period of time and don’t make it obvious to him, so he/she won’t lie about the answer. As you ask him/her the questions, go to your list and thick or cancel, thick if you are satisfied and cancel if you are not.
At the end, total it and see how good it is or how bad it is for you to make your decision and don’t be biased. Maybe because you like the man/woman makes you lenient with the marking or scores so you can still be with him/her, you might be making a big mistake.